Parents Guide

How to Support Your Teen’s College Choice Without Turning Up the Pressure

The college decision process can feel like a high-stakes puzzle for everyone involved. The challenge is to offer wisdom without coming off as the loudest voice in the room.
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The college decision process can feel like a high-stakes puzzle for everyone involved. Your teen is trying to fit together questions about majors, campus life, and future careers, while you’re watching from the sidelines—both hopeful and anxious. The challenge is to offer wisdom without coming off as the loudest voice in the room.

Here’s how to guide them with a light touch, honest support, and just the right amount of gentle reassurance.


Listen First, Speak Second

Before you share your thoughts, take time to understand theirs. Instead of jumping in with statistics or stories, let your teen explain what’s on their mind. Maybe they’re grappling with how far from home they’re willing to go, or feeling uncertain about committing to a specific field of study. By giving them space to articulate these feelings, you’re showing respect—and they’ll be more receptive when you do chime in.